I knew almost instantaneously after Ellis was stillborn that I wanted to try and raise money to try and give back to the people that helped us; our experience had been made so much easier because of the people we had around us.
I spoke to Jo and Monica, our bereavement midwives, and they said that they wanted to do some work on the Rowan Suite at Frimley Park Hospital. To make it better for all grieving families that had to pass through that room they needed a substantial amount of money, but they were around £6000 short. That was it, decision made, I was going to try and raise £6000 for the Rowan Suite at Frimley Park Hospital. But what to do…?
After some research I found out that there was in fact a ‘Run Frimley’ 10k race that started and finished at Frimley Park Hospital - perfect! Once I told people I was doing this race and would be running 10K in the hope of raising £6000 I soon had people joining me saying they would run with me and before long Team Ellis was born. It started with around 10 of us but ended up being 28 amazing ladies, some friends, some family members, some acquaintances, but all women that had been really touch by our story and wanted to do their bit to help. To say I was overwhelmed is a huge understatement.
We started raising money soon thereafter. Part of Team Ellis are my daughter’s old childminders, Christa and Anna. They decided to hold a “Blue Fun Day” to help raise more money by selling cakes and with activities for kids. It something I was truly touched by. And as part of my race training I decided to sign up to the Frimley Jingle Jog, a 5k fun run around a local park in Frimley with the addition of jingle bells attached to your ankles or wrists. The fundraising was underway.
My husband and some friends have also joined Team Ellis and decided to take on a Tough Mudder challenge which will be happening in September 2021, postponed due to the pandemic. Much like our ladies 10k race date which was originally Sunday 3rd May 2020. Understandably, due to Covid-19 the race has been postponed until May 2021. However, as so many of us had been training so hard we all still wanted to run on the 3rd May. So, on that cold Sunday morning those that could went out, solo (but together in spirit), and ran/walked 10K, proudly wearing our Team Ellis t-shirts. It was an emotional day.
Absolutely beyond my imagination, incredibly, we have not only hit our £6000 target but we have smashed through it due to a real team effort. After speaking to Jo and Monica from Frimley Park Hospital we have decided to keep the fundraising page open and to try and raise the total to £9000 so they can add a few more things to their wish list for the Rowan Suite, and I’d like to think that once the Tough Mudder and Run Frimley 10k events have taken place that we will have reached that target.
After this I want to continue to fundraise but turn my attention to research and more specifically Tommy’s, the baby charity. We still don’t have an answer as to why Ellis died and that is the most painful thing to live with. If I can help raise money for Tommy’s to aid in the research they do then maybe one day we might finally get our answer.
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Ellis may not be able to make his own footprints on this world but through fundraising and through talking about him and his story I hope to spread his footprints everywhere I go and in everything I do.
PARENTING THROUGH LOSS